Friday, June 20, 2014

Love Believes The Best

"Love believes all things, hopes all things." 1 Corinthians 13:7

I will first start off by admitting.....this is an amazing challenge for me and something I have really struggled with my whole life.  Even as a Christian, my mind tends to wonder into the negative fields of doubt and insecurities.  This is a place that satan loves to take me and I have had to constantly seek God on ways to avoid this nasty playground.

"Love chooses to believe the best about people.  It gives them the benefit of the doubt.  It refuses to fill in the unknowns with negative assumptions."

I tend to think the worst in certain situations and a lot of that comes from insecurities.  I sometimes get the "they are all out to get me" mentality and become very protective of myself.  I easily shut down in certain situations and will just think the worst.  Although, I am typically a positive person, it's amazing how negative I can be when it comes to the thought of being treated badly.  I am quick to walk away and avoid negative situations instead of facing them head on.  Sometimes walking away is a good thing and this is when we need His amazing discernment and wisdom.  We need to know when to stick around and when it's time to walk away.  Often times, if we just change our perception on situations and circumstances, so many arguments and so much negativity can be avoided.

"It's time to start thinking differently.  It's time to let love lead your thoughts and your focus."

You must develop the habit of reining in your negative thoughts and focusing on the positive attributes of the people in your life. Love believes the best.  We all make mistakes but that should never overshadow the amazing qualities that we see in our loved ones. Love should always be the main opinion we have of somebody.  Love should be the first thing we think of when in the middle of conflict.  Love can end a battle and we should all work on ending our battles before they even begin.  Love, is the only way we can do this.  He loves us and has so much amazing mercy and grace for each of us.  Can you imagine how awful it would feel if God expected US to be perfect?? So, why do we expect perfection from others?  

We shouldn't.  

 I dare you to believe the best in people and in your circumstances today!

Monday, June 2, 2014

Am I The Thorn Or The Rose?

"He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city." Proverbs 16:32

The Bible tells us to be slow to anger and there is a reason for that.  Anger always forces us to do something we regret later.  Anger can lash out and spurt out words that can ruin relationships and even ruin lives. It's amazing how just one moment of anger can change so much and can especially change how others view you.  As a human, we will get angry but as a child of God, we must gauge what angers us and how we handle that anger. 

"When under pressure, love doesn't turn sour.  The truth is, love does not get angry or hurt unless there is a legitimate and just reason in the sight of God."

The Bible holds us accountable for the things that make us angry.  Today I challenge you to go through your day and make a list of the things that make you angry.  Look at your list before you go to bed and ask God to show you which things were and were not legitimate in the sight of Him.  You will find that 90% of the things that anger you, are not worth getting angry over.

"A loving wife is not overly sensitive or cranky but exercises emotional self-control.  She chooses to be a flower among the thorns and respond pleasantly during prickly situations." 

"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife." Proverbs 21:19

Am I the delicate rose, or am I the thorn on the stem that makes others bleed and scared to even hold a rose?  I'm not a wife yet but I hope that when I am, I am the loving wife that God commands us to be in the Bible.  As a wife, you are not supposed to nag or be overly sensitive.  You are supposed to be God's reward to your husband and what kind of reward or gift are you if your husband is constantly nagged at or he has to walk on egg shells because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings or anger you?  What a miserable life and that is not the life God called you to give your husband.  

Controlling irritability is easy for some and hard for others.  With this busy life and all the things going on in one day, it's very easy to be irritable.  I dare you to try and capture those moments and make sure you are still treating loved ones right even when under life's pressures!  Life is precious and so are the people in it!  

Today, be the flower among the thorns and work hard making sure people enjoy life around you rather than dreading it.